Some final thoughts

Today marks the end of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Mahalo to those who have been following us, and my apologies that our activity on this blog declined in the last week or so.  Here are a few more facts and a news article about Oahu’s Candle Light Vigil below.

red flags (two a day for one week): 

Someone who…

-criticizes you or puts you down; most commonly tells you that you’re “crazy” “stupid” and/or “fat” or that no one would ever want or love you

-says one thing and does another

-takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others

-has a history of battering

-blames the entire failure of previous relationships on their partner

-grew up in an abusive or violent home

-insists that you stop spending time with your friends and/or family

-seems “too good to be true”

-rages out of control and is impulsive



-in 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed, the man physically abused the woman before the murder.

-an estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year

-almost one thrid of female homicide victims that are reported in police records are killed by an intimate partner

-IPV results in more thatn 18.5 million mental health care visits each year

-victims of IPV lost almost 8 million days of paid work because of the violence perpetrated against them by current or former partners. This loss is the equivalent of more than 32,000 full time jobs and almost 5.6 million days of household productivity as a result of violence.

Hawaii Domestic Violence Coalition Holds Candlelight Vigil:


Who can stop domestic violence? You can! That’s the message that staff members and volunteers of the nonprofit Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence want to send at tonight’s candlelight vigil.

The annual vigil, from 5 to 7 p.m. at the McCoy Pavilion in Ala Moana Beach Park honors people who have lost their lives because of domestic violence, and aims to spread awareness about the pervasive community issue.

The coalition was formed in 1980, and today provides a 25-hour-long training program for community members and social service providers, as well as resources for domestic violence victims, their families and friends. It’s part of a network of social service agencies and nonprofits, such as shelters, healthcare centers, legal aid organizations and more.

The state declared October domestic violence month and this year’s activities, marches and vigils haven’t focused primarily on victims or even their perpetrators, but rather community bystanders.

“We want to call on everyday community members to play an active role, to dispel myths around why domestic violence is perpetuated,” says coalition executive director Veronika Geronimo. “Domestic violence affects communities across the spectrum, it doesn’t discriminate,” she says.

Geronimo says that this month the coalition began talking with the Honolulu Police Department about implementing domestic violence training for its officers. With good reason: HONOLULU Magazine recently perused the police crime logs at the Bertetania police headquarters and many of the calls to the department were domestic-violence related.

While the coalition has been training various social services sectors for the past three decades, Geronimo says “it’s often not enough. We’re now working on taking a stronger public policy role—holding batterers accountable and more community outreach and engagement,” especially at the Legislature this upcoming session.

“We need to send the message that violence is unacceptable,” Geronimo says.

Want to get involved? The coalition is always looking for volunteers; most of the nonprofit’s community events are volunteer driven. And if someone discusses domestic abuse with you, “Listen to them, believe in them,” says Geronimo. “Let them know it’s not their fault.”

In addition to its band of volunteers, the coalition wants bring community role models on board to help erase the stigma of domestic violence.

“We have domestic violence month once a year,” says Geronimo. “But people are in these types of relationships all year. It takes vigilance and community engagement year-round to fight it.”


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Domestic Violence Awareness Month is in October. Here you can find news, articles, stats, updates on DVAM events in your area, and more!

Posted on October 31, 2011, in DV news, DVAM updates. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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