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The Kona community will be holding a Domestic Violence Walk and Vigil at the Kona International Marketplace at 5:15pm.  Show your support for safe and healthy relationships and ohanas.


Hilo Domestic Violence Walk and Vigil OCTOBER 19

Join the Hilo community for a domestic violence walk and vigil from the Hilo Bayfront Parking lot to Aupuni Center starting at 5:15pm.

KAUAI – Telling Amy’s Story -Don’t Miss This Amazing Film OCTOBER 19

Kauai Community College, OCET 106 presents – “Telling Amy’s Story” – Contact Frances Dinnan 245-8381 for more information

This powerful film is hosted by actress and advocate Mariska Hargitay, and told by Detective Deirdri Fishel, Telling Amy’s Story follows the timeline of a domestic violence homicide that occurred on November 8, 2001.


Domestic Violence Awareness Sign Waiving on MOLOKAI today, 4:30pm – 5:30pm!

Come help raise awareness or give them a honk!
Maunaloa Hwy, Olo`olo Street



Maui Candlelight Vigil October 4th

On October 4th Maui will hold a candlelight vigil at  St. Theresa’s Church Lawn 25 West Lipoa St, Kihei.  For more information contact FACE at

Honolulu Police Department Takes a Stand to Stop DV

HPD Officers at the DVAM Proclamation Ceremony show their support for stopping domestic violence!

DVAM 2012 Proclamation Ceremony

Dr. Alexa Sueda from Kaiser Permanente spoke to packed room about the role employers play in helping victims of domestic violence. Kaiser Permanente Hawaii is rolling out a comprehensive domestic violence policy for its staff and patients.  Mahalo Dr. Sueda and Kaiser Permanente Hawaii for sharing your aloha!

Some final thoughts

Today marks the end of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  Mahalo to those who have been following us, and my apologies that our activity on this blog declined in the last week or so.  Here are a few more facts and a news article about Oahu’s Candle Light Vigil below.

red flags (two a day for one week): 

Someone who…

-criticizes you or puts you down; most commonly tells you that you’re “crazy” “stupid” and/or “fat” or that no one would ever want or love you

-says one thing and does another

-takes no responsibility for their behavior and blames others

-has a history of battering

-blames the entire failure of previous relationships on their partner

-grew up in an abusive or violent home

-insists that you stop spending time with your friends and/or family

-seems “too good to be true”

-rages out of control and is impulsive



-in 70-80% of intimate partner homicides, no matter which partner was killed, the man physically abused the woman before the murder.

-an estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year

-almost one thrid of female homicide victims that are reported in police records are killed by an intimate partner

-IPV results in more thatn 18.5 million mental health care visits each year

-victims of IPV lost almost 8 million days of paid work because of the violence perpetrated against them by current or former partners. This loss is the equivalent of more than 32,000 full time jobs and almost 5.6 million days of household productivity as a result of violence.

Hawaii Domestic Violence Coalition Holds Candlelight Vigil:


Who can stop domestic violence? You can! That’s the message that staff members and volunteers of the nonprofit Hawaii State Coalition Against Domestic Violence want to send at tonight’s candlelight vigil.

The annual vigil, from 5 to 7 p.m. at the McCoy Pavilion in Ala Moana Beach Park honors people who have lost their lives because of domestic violence, and aims to spread awareness about the pervasive community issue.

The coalition was formed in 1980, and today provides a 25-hour-long training program for community members and social service providers, as well as resources for domestic violence victims, their families and friends. It’s part of a network of social service agencies and nonprofits, such as shelters, healthcare centers, legal aid organizations and more.

The state declared October domestic violence month and this year’s activities, marches and vigils haven’t focused primarily on victims or even their perpetrators, but rather community bystanders.

“We want to call on everyday community members to play an active role, to dispel myths around why domestic violence is perpetuated,” says coalition executive director Veronika Geronimo. “Domestic violence affects communities across the spectrum, it doesn’t discriminate,” she says.

Geronimo says that this month the coalition began talking with the Honolulu Police Department about implementing domestic violence training for its officers. With good reason: HONOLULU Magazine recently perused the police crime logs at the Bertetania police headquarters and many of the calls to the department were domestic-violence related.

While the coalition has been training various social services sectors for the past three decades, Geronimo says “it’s often not enough. We’re now working on taking a stronger public policy role—holding batterers accountable and more community outreach and engagement,” especially at the Legislature this upcoming session.

“We need to send the message that violence is unacceptable,” Geronimo says.

Want to get involved? The coalition is always looking for volunteers; most of the nonprofit’s community events are volunteer driven. And if someone discusses domestic abuse with you, “Listen to them, believe in them,” says Geronimo. “Let them know it’s not their fault.”

In addition to its band of volunteers, the coalition wants bring community role models on board to help erase the stigma of domestic violence.

“We have domestic violence month once a year,” says Geronimo. “But people are in these types of relationships all year. It takes vigilance and community engagement year-round to fight it.”

News roundup

Happy Monday. Here’s a brief news round up:

First, some good news! The FBI will be revising their definition of rape at an FBI subcommittee taking place tomorrow, Oct 18.  A few excerpts:

“The public has the right to know about the prevalence of crime and violent crime in our communities, and we know that data drives practices, resources, policies and programs,” said Carol Tracy, executive director of theWomen’s Law Project in Philadelphia, whose office has campaigned to get the F.B.I. to change its definition of sexual assault. “It’s critical that we strive to have accurate information about this.”


The definition of rape used by the F.B.I. — “the carnal knowledge of a female, forcibly and against her will” — was written more than 80 years ago. The yearly report on violent crime, which uses data provided voluntarily by the nation’s 18,000 law enforcement agencies, is widely cited as an indicator of national crime trends.

But that definition, critics say, does not take into account sexual-assault cases that involve anal or oral penetration or penetration with an object, cases where the victims were drugged or under the influence of alcohol or cases with male victims. As a result, many sexual assaults are not counted as rapes in the yearly federal accounting.

“The data that are reported to the public come from this definition, and sadly, it portrays a very, very distorted picture,” said Susan B. Carbon, director of the Office on Violence Against Women, part of the Department of Justice. “It’s the message that we’re sending to victims, and if you don’t fit that very narrow definition, you weren’t a victim and your rape didn’t count.”


In some cases, however, police departments contribute to the problem. The Baltimore Police Department made sweeping changes in the way it dealt with sexual assault after The Baltimore Sun revealed last year that the department had been labeling reports of rape as “unfounded” at a rate five times the national average.

The problem, Commissioner Frederick H. Bealefeld III said, was rooted in the attitudes and lack of understanding of officers toward rape and rape victims.

“We didn’t just suddenly veer off the road and strike a tree — this was a very long process that led to this problem,” Commissioner Bealefeld said.

We’ll try to keep you posted on this subject, as it’s very important in our efforts to end domestic and sexual violence.  We know all too well how flawed our statistics are – generally based only on those who enter the system – and how that in turn shapes funding, programs, outreach, etc.  If they do change the definition of rape I believe we will see a huge influx of reports which hopefully can trigger the awareness that violence against women happens all too often.  Hopefully we can see some progress! If you’re interested in taking action around this issue I urge you to consider contacting the FBI director and attorney general with this easy form to express support for updating the definition of rape. (It’s easy – just fill in the blanks!)

Some more good news out of India:  Being assaulted in New Delhi? There’s an app for that. Excerpts:

One in every four rapes in India occurs in New Delhi, police say, with reports of women being bundled into moving cars and gang-raped before being dumped on roadsides, giving the city an unsavoury reputation as the “rape capital” of the nation. There is one rape every 18 hours, according to police.

The phone app “Fight Back” will be launched in November by a local charity and will function as an SOS alert device — sending out a text message with a GPS location to up to five people, including police, and as a post on Facebook and Twitter.

“Safety for women has become such a huge issue here and we felt that citizens of Delhi, where possibly the problem exists the most, could use this type of technological intervention,” said Hindol Sengupta, co-founder of Whypoll, which created the application.

“Women are harassed and molested everywhere on buses, at metro stations, in markets … we believe this is Asia’s first phone application aimed at making women safer.”


The “Fight Back” app will initially be available to download from the Whypoll website ( for a nominal fee and will be supported by a range of mobile devices such as Nokia and BlackBerry. SOS alerts will cost the same as an SMS.

Sengupta said the app, which is part of the Whypoll’s “Safe in the City” campaign, will also map the SOS alerts to build an accurate database of where and what gender-related crimes occur.

“We have created a platform where women can remain anonymous yet the incident will still be recorded and reflected on a map on our website — which will help us push for action in places where there appears to be increased risks to women,” he said.

Technology is so amazing.  In an area where to come forward as a victim comes with heavy stigma and shame, where you don’t know if the authorities are trustworthy, etc.  (which happens all over the globe, only varying in severity) this is perfect! This is a great example of how the power of people can, at times, make greater strides for safety and equality than the more typical means such as political lobbying and such.  It also seems like a great first step to creating a coordinated community response to violence.

Okay now some not so good news – just some updates on the Topeka, Kansas ordeal :

The result: Domestic battery remains illegal in Topeka, because it’s still illegal under state law–lacking a city ordinance only means that the cases have to be prosecuted by the district attorney, if the district attorney were prosecuting misdemeanors, which he isn’t, so they aren’t. Without a way to charge domestic batterers after they’ve been arrested, all the police can do is hold them for 72 hours until they’re nice and pissed off and then release them–as has happened to 18 people so far. According to NOW’s Karri Ann Rinker, police have confirmed that one man has already re-offended: Within 48 hours of his release, he assaulted his wife again, was arrested again, and was released again.

The aftermath: Ultimately, the county blinked first, and Taylor agreed to do his goddamned job already, saying he would review all misdemeanors sent his way and prosecute, y’know, some of them.

If there’s one thing that’s as trivial and ultimately insignificant as a knockoff poker chip from the Mississippi Belle, it’s battered women, amiright? God forbid you should decriminalize pot-smoking or jaywalking to try and save those extra funds–when people’s lives are at stake, that’s the time for the district attorney to stick his tongue out at the county commission, and for the city to play chicken with the district attorney. It’s just people you’re using as pawns, women and men and children, and arguably the most vulnerable ones under the law’s protection. Nobody important, certainly not when you have a political point to score.

Also, the Kansas Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence responded to the DA saying he will review all misdemeanors:

“KCSDV is pleased to hear that District Attorney Chad Taylor has agreed to restart his prosecution of domestic violence misdemeanors occurring in the Topeka city limits. We remain vigilant, however, as he warns the community about the “consequences” of these recent events.

“We urge all citizens – here in Topeka, across the country and around the world – to learn more about your own community’s local response to domestic violence. We must all hold officials accountable for the components of a complete response to domestic violence that includes fully funded victim services, trained and competent professionals, and quick and appropriate consequences for criminal behavior. Learn more about these critical services or

“The fact remains that for almost five weeks in the City of Topeka, there were no criminal consequences for committing the crime of domestic battery. Whether it is Domestic Violence Awareness Month or not, let’s work together to make sure this never happens again. Budgets should never be balanced on the backs of victims.”

We’ll try to keep you updated as this unfolds – something tells me it isn’t the last we’ve heard of DV in Topeka.

Have a wonderful week everyone.

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